What are the signs that you may be spiraling downward into a sick relationship that may leave you abused - emotionally and physically? The 14 reasons are right here.
There are 14 basic signs that the person you are with may be an abusive personality. Does one trait constitute an abusive personality? Perhaps, not. But, if the list grows as you read, don't walk out of this relationship--run! Every year, high school students get into a spider web of deceit and danger. Don't let it be you.
- Extreme Jealousy This person will call you constantly or visit you unexpectedly. They just "pop" in. You may think he/she cares for you but it is really about control. They want to make sure you are not with someone else. They are really spying. You may be prevented from going anywhere without him/her because you may meet someone new. They expect you to check in constantly. Example: They may give you a cell phone as a gift and pay the bill. But, you are expected to check in with them several times a day. And, since they get the phone bill, they know who you are calling.
- Controlling You may be interrogated about whom you talked to and where you were. They may insist that you turn over all the money you make to them. They may threaten to hurt themselves if you ever leave them. They may even say that you will never find anyone else if you leave them. They may ask you to do illegal things as evidence that you love them.
- Unrealistic Expectations This person may expect you to be perfect. Don't gain weight. You must meet every need. If you don't, YOU are the problem, not them.
- Isolation You may be cut off from family and friends. Everyone else is the "enemy" and they are poisoning you against them. So, you must stay away from them. Everyone is "causing trouble" to break you up. The abuser may even demand you give up your cell phone, car or job to prove you love them.
- Blames Others For Problems and Mistakes It is always someone else's fault. Nothing is their fault. The world is against them and you must prove your loyalty. The relationship is always a test.
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