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More on abusive traits. It doesn't get better--only worse. If you are still checking off traits of your significant other, get out now. This is not a good sign.
This person may say, "You make me angry" instead of, "I am angry. It is always someone else that is causing the problem. They are the victim and you are supposed to fix it.
- Makes Everyone Else Responsible For His/Her Feelings.
- Hypersensitivity This person is so easily insulted that you find yourself walking on egg shells trying not to offend them. They may rant and rave about things that are a normal part of life. They may explode when their golfing plans are spoiled by rain.
- Cruelty to Animals and to Children This person may kill or punish animals brutally. This is not a good sign. They may also tease children until they cry. Do they expect children to do things beyond their ability? Look for the signs.
- Verbal Abuse This person constantly criticizes you. He or she says blunt, cruel, hurtful things. They degrade, curse, and call you ugly names.
- Demanding This person expects you to serve and obey. Your needs are not important at the time--only theirs.
Related articles:
Abusive Traits: Good Reasons to Run and Abusive Persons: Good Reasons to Run
Also, visit this Suite 101 site on abuse.
Read previous articles on Educational Issues.
Copyright article 2006 Barbara Pytel. All Rights Reserved.
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Comments
Aug 28, 2008 2:14 AM
Guest :
i have been with my husband for the last 14 years, and he blames me for all
the things that went wrong in his life, i feel that most of the time i am
walking on egg shells except for the rare occasion when he is in a good
mood then we are all meant to be to, i dont know what to do, if i am
truthful i really want to leave him, but i have no one to turn to, and
very little money as he controls what little we have.
Oct 14, 2008 2:47 AM
Guest :
Try to build a social structure - so you have who to turn to. It does not
cost money. It will be very likely fun. It will give you comfort and
validation. You will find out you are not alone. You will find out people
have similar mistakes. You will learn how others solve their similar
problems. It will be a wonderful learning experience. Good luck.
Nov 23, 2008 10:59 AM
Guest :
I have been left my abusive husband 2yrs but was with him 12yrs.I am still
struggling to move on with my New Life. He isnt aloud contact with the
children.He is still playing games even though I do the no contact with
him. He has a new partner and baby so why does he have to still make my
life harder.Why can't he let go,I thought he'd be happy now and leave me
alone to get on with bringing up our children even though he won't pay
maintanence. He said he would see me on my back side. I just want to forget
all what he put us through, but i still suffer anxiety and panick attacks.
I am so glad i left but didn't think it would take so long to re sort
myself out. I was not prepared for the ripple affect.Thought i was dealing
with a normal person but i relise now that i wasn't,but only coz of womans
aid and the net so i could read up on DV.I was so taken in..
Jan 17, 2009 7:20 PM
Guest :
They will NEVER change. A good book to read "Whose Face Is In The
Mirror?" by Dianne Schwartz. I am a survivor of a controlling
ex-husband and boyfriend. Silence is golden and time will heal. It is hard
but you have to do it for YOU!!!
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